Rockstar Days

I know as a mom, that I have amazing days.  Days where I think that I could do it all and take over the world, all while taking care of my other responsibilities.  It is amazing when you think "I got this, no problem!"  You can conquer it all.  Finish a project at work in time to get to daycare to pick up the children, cook dinner, have quality play time, and a peaceful bedtime routine.  The days where you can verbally say "AHHHHH."  These are Rockstar Days.  And they are awesome! 

But, they can't all be Rockstar Days.  At least, that is what I say to myself and to M.  You know the days where you can't even put make up on because you can't fathom where you will find the time.  Or, iron your children's clothes.  Or, declare pizza night because if you have to do one more thing, you may burst.  First, breathe.  Stop.  Be in the present moment.  This is not the time to continuously review the to-do list, or check the calendar.  Do what you can do and be okay with it.  Focus on what is most important at this time.  If you are at work, focus on work.  If you are at home with your kids, focus on the kids.  Remember, we have today ... today.  On these hard days, remember that.  It is today.  Tomorrow is tomorrow. 

This post is inspired by all of those wonderful conversations I have been having lately.  It really seems that when I am down, someone is strong enough to pick me up and inspire me.  Luckily, I have been surrounded by those amazing women lately.  I hope that now that I am having stronger days, I am able to pick them up when they need it.  Two things I learned this week:  First, don't let it get to the point of explosion. When you are strong, feeling like the Rockstar you are, try to make a journal of why it is a Rockstar day.  What are you doing?  What do you feel?  What is going on around you?  I highly doubt that your children are acting like angels on that day and that is the reason.  It is perspective, so what is your perspective on those days? 

Second, if it does explode, use it for a catalyst for change.  Don't explode and then revert back to old behaviors when you feel strong again.  Think about what pushed you over the edge.  What changes would help you to not explode again?  What actions can you put into place?  Maybe the hardest one (at least for me), where do you need help?  Did you hear that?  Ask for HELP.  You are not superwoman.  Not even on your Rockstar days.  You need HELP.  We all do.  Maybe your kids need more chores.  Maybe your husband needs to step it up.  Maybe someone to come and clean.  Maybe a scheduled date night or girls night. Build your resilience tank.  Fill it up regularly.  Don't be like me and let your tank go to "E" before filling up (this is true of my actual gas tank and my life and I resolve to change both).


I know for a fact that this post is true whether or not you work outside the home or not.  Have kids or not.  It is just life as usual.  We all have long to-do lists with way too much on them, not enough sleep or "me" time.